While your sexual partner gently slides a finger in, take ten deep breaths, breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth. Go slowly and use lots of lube. Bareback bottoms should get tested regularly. Talk to your partner about protection before you start having anal sex to help things go more smoothly. While the risk is less for the 'top' or insertive partnerHIV can still enter through the opening at the top of the penis urethraor through cuts, scratches and sores on the penis. My backup plan is to always carry a douche in a drawstring bag, but this is not always doable.
You will only learn this through communication — so communicate!
All the messes, failures, half-starts, and struggles happen in porn, too. Depending on the environment — a dive bar versus a dance club, a bathhouse or a play party — I might be wearing more clothes or less, but the target is the same: I know this after experimenting with every kind of lube imaginable, from lotions to kitchen ingredients to Elbow Grease and more. The next time you go hunting, do so with confidence and self-love.
Different gay men have argued the health benefits of doing this.