Nothing to do with the fact that I was gay. Not just Kai or AJ: Even when I was still in the hospital, hours would go by so slow, and I actually said to myself: History is here. To preserve these articles as they originally appeared, The Times does not alter, edit or update them. That had the accidental side effect of making "raping a co-worker" a surprisingly safe decision.
Shenanigans like that are what you're going to see when you take thousands of hormonal young men, separate them from women, and put them under extreme stress.
You were ruined because in those days you couldn't ever get a job doing anything with that kind of discharge. I go home at the end of the night to my partner, just like straight people do, and make dinner. I would hope that my service mattered to someone.
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