Still, cautioned Breedlove, biology does not determine sexual orientation. They're not my kids. I reached for my phone and then stopped. People told us either there weren't gay people here, that there were but they didn't know them -- or that they thought people looked gay but weren't sure about the facts of the matter. There are moments when it feels wrong to claim my status as a veteran; as if being gay made me less of a soldier and somehow invalidated my service. I told myself that I should have built a thicker skin at this point; that in comparison to the life-or-death hardships of military life, these moments meant nothing.
I was fortunate that Kalliavas, the officer in charge of the intelligence department where I worked, was a woman with no tolerance for prejudice.
An iron sign on their front lawn declares it "Happiness Hill. These events must register in the woman's body before an individual is even conceived. His words, and any comfort I might have taken from them, fell flat. None answered the census, however, either because they were confused by the questions, did not receive a form or weren't living together at the time of the survey.
The groundwork for change began when Evelyn Hooker, a UCLA psychologist, was approached by a gay former student in the fifties.